"Never Let Anyone Get Your Goat, Push

Your Buttons, Get You Riled Up,

Or Annoy You - 6 Ways to Cope"

By Jonathan Huie

Stay Happy, never let anyone get your goat.Whether phrased as "push your buttons," "get your goat," "get you riled up," or "annoy you," it's no fun to be on the receiving end. How to cope?

1. Don't take it personally. Even when someone criticizes your actions or demeans your very nature, know that they are merely directing their inner turmoil in your direction. Someone else's opinion of you is mostly irrelevant, and basically none of your business. Don't assume that there is any validity to an accusation. Perhaps there is a valuable lesson buried inside the unkindness that merits objective consideration, but negative emotions are best quickly discarded.

2. Look to the positive people in your life for support. If you balance many positive and supportive friends against one or two negative influences, it is much easier to cope. If you don't currently have enough positive people in your life, begin a focused effort to add positive people to your inner circle. If you don't have personal connections, search for groups of positive people at MeetUp.com.

3. Remove negative people from your life. Yes you can, even if it's your boss. You don't need that job so much that it's worth your health or happiness. Everything in life is a choice. Sometimes making a change is important, while other times just knowing that you hold the power to make a different choice is enough.

4. Forgive the offender, not for their sake, but for your own sake. The act of forgiving releases your anger and provides space for rational thinking and action.

5. Be grateful for the wake-up call. Any time that someone or something grabs your attention is a good time to be grateful - even if the message is unpleasant. Something is happening that requires your conscious awareness. Perhaps you have a lesson to learn or an action to take. Perhaps it is time to remove another negative influence from your life.

6. Release any expectations that the unkind person should have acted differently. Life is not fair, and you only cause yourself unhappiness if you hold an expectation that life or any individual should be fair or kind.
Visit Jonathan's Daily Inspiration - Daily Quote blog at http://www.DreamThisDay.com, and read his article: Stop Anger Before It Stops You - 7 Secrets for more ways to cope with anger.

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Jonathan Lockwood Huie is an author of self-awareness books. He has been dubbed "The Philosopher of Happiness" by those closest to him, in recognition of his on-going commitment to seeing Joy in all of life.

Today is your day to dance lightly with life. It really is. - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

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On Success--Dale Carnegie

Some Tips from Dale Carnegie (1888-1955)

Dale Carnegie at Wikipedia

an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and interpersonal skills. Born in poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, first published in 1936, a massive bestseller that remains popular today. He also wrote a biography of Abraham Lincoln, titled Lincoln the Unknown, as well as several other books.

Carnegie was an early proponent of what is now called ""responsibility asssumption", although this only appears minutely in his written work. One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behavior by changing one's reaction to them.
from:Dale Carnegie at Wikipedia

Act enthusiastic and you will be enthusiastic.

Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain-and most fools do.

Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.

Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.

Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.

If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep.

Dale Carnegie at brainyquote

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Books by Dale Carnegie

Public Speaking and Influencing Men In Business. Association Press.
How to Win Friends and Influence People. A self-help book about interpersonal relations. Simon and Schuster.
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. A self-help book about stress management. Simon & Schuster.
Lincoln the Unknown by Dale Carnegie. A biography of Abraham Lincoln. Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc.
The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking. A Revision of Public Speaking And Influencing Men In Business by Dorothy Carnegie. Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc.
The Leader In You. How to Win Friends, Influence People, and Succeed in a Changing World
The Dale Carnegie Scrapbook, edited by Dorothy Carnegie. A collection of quotations that Dale Carnegie found inspirational interspersed with excerpts from his own writings. Simon and Schuster.
How To Develop Self-Confidence and Influence Others Through Public Speaking.
Managing Through People. The application of Dale Carnegie's principles of human relations to management. Simon and Schuster.
Pathways to Success - In Your Personal and Private Lives

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